I fell in love with a girl the past eight months. Yesterday she dumped me. I have been hurt before but this really has me down. I won’t commit suicide, I just feel the world would be better if I was not here. I feel God has abandoned me not just the girl. What should I do to get over a losing someone you loved?
I really appreciate everyone’s input. I carefully read each persons comment. And I can’t thank each of you enough for taking the time help. I haven’t cried in years until this breakup. Pretty pathetic seeing a grown man cry. So, you can imagine how depressed I was. Slowly, I’m doing better. There are so many great ideas that I don’t know if I can choose the best answer!
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July 5th, 2010 at 7:05 pm
HUNNY…
HONESTLY .. I HAVE… BUT IM STILL HERE.. I UNDERSTAND LOVE HURTS … BUT… THERE ARE PLENTY PEOPLE OUT THERE THAT WILL LOVE YOU… SHE JUST WASNT FOR YOU.. DONT KILL YA SELF… CAUSE YOU WILL MISS OUT ON YA SOUL MATE,, .. REAL LOVE IS FOREVER…. JUST KEEP FAITH THAT YOULL FIND THAT ONE… AND THEY WILL COME… LOVE YOURSELF FIRST.. LOVING SOMEONE ELSE BEFORE URSELF IS ALWAYS A BIG NONO.. HOW CAN THEY LOVE YOU IF YOU DONT… TAKE SOME TIME TO GET TO KNOW YOURSELF.. MEET NEW PEOPLE.. GO TO SOME PLACES YOU REALLY DONT GO TO.. FIND THAT NEW SIDE OF YOU .. AND YOUR PASSION IN LIFE.. AND FORGET HER… SHE IS SO LAME FOR BREAKIN UP WITH A CARING PERSON LIKE YOURSELF.. THATS HER LOST..AND KARMA IS A BENCH.. FOR REAL.. SO SOMEONE WILL DO HER THE SAME WAY…
PLEASE DONT KILL YA SELF… YOUR WORTH ALOT MORE THAN THAT…
HOPE I COULD HELP…………..
FROM THE BOTTOM OF MY HEART HEATHER A…
July 5th, 2010 at 7:05 pm
I did for like a day
it was a bad day and to make it worse my the guy i was with dumped me
i was really just thinking "what’s the point?" but i pulled it together and here i sit
July 5th, 2010 at 7:05 pm
it’s called youth kid.
we all go through it
July 5th, 2010 at 7:05 pm
not me….NEVER!
July 5th, 2010 at 7:05 pm
I TRIED TO HANG MYSELF DURING A RELATIONSHIP AT 19.
July 5th, 2010 at 7:05 pm
Yeah..i had the same feeling.. Sometimes its hard for us to let go while we still love them. My best advice for u is go to the mall =) it will keep ur mind off things if ur shopping
July 5th, 2010 at 7:05 pm
stop being such a pansy. grow up and move on. "no woman’s worth crawling on the earth, so walk like a man my son."
July 5th, 2010 at 7:05 pm
The same way we’ve all had to cope with the break-up of meaningful relationships – time and patience.
July 5th, 2010 at 7:05 pm
Yeah, but trust me, it gets better. Consider yourself lucky, you’ve only lost 8 months. I lost 5 years of my life. And even I bounced back and realized that she wasn’t worth that trouble.
July 5th, 2010 at 7:05 pm
don’t give her the satisfaction, simply act like you have had love before and will again
July 5th, 2010 at 7:05 pm
It’ll get better. Take one day at the time. Get closer to your family.
July 5th, 2010 at 7:05 pm
Get out and do things to not think about it. Hang out with your friends. Go to the movies, bars, strip clubs, etc etc. Just anything to get your mind off your ex.
Nobody is worth killing yourself over, so get any of those thoughts out of your head mate.
July 5th, 2010 at 7:05 pm
And what should we that survive divorce do where there are children and home at stake. Harakiri? No, breakup i a chance given to you to see your life fom different perspecitve. Use it to improve yourself.
July 5th, 2010 at 7:05 pm
Yep…its quite normal to think like this…VERY BRIEFLY
But it gets better
July 5th, 2010 at 7:05 pm
scream out and keep on walking forward with the pain
July 5th, 2010 at 7:05 pm
I think its very natural to feel unwanted or unloved after a breakup. Just because one person has decided to lose you, doesn’t mean you’re worth nothing.
You are always worth something and the world is a better place with you in it.
God has not abandoned you – he may not give you everything you want but he gives you everything you need and this is his way of telling you that you don’t need her =)
Cheer up! Things only get better!
July 5th, 2010 at 7:05 pm
don’t worry shes not the right girl for you Im sure our GOD prepare for you a better one
July 5th, 2010 at 7:05 pm
Well, yes I have.
But it was different, as the night I broke up with him, he suicided.
I did feel pretty damn crap.
But I do know for a fact that the feelings you suffer through after a break up of any kind, do fade after a while. It takes time, and you have to be strong, but it does get better.
I can’t tell you ways to get over your girl. Everybody does it differently.
But I wish you luck, and I hope very much that things improve for you!
July 5th, 2010 at 7:05 pm
We all have that;
You are actually in a state of remorse, almost as if you had lost someone to death.
This is a very tender stage but you will get through it.
No one ever said it will be painless, but hang on in there.
You will go through several stages of remorse or mourning, and each stage will have its own characteristics.
This is stage 1
July 5th, 2010 at 7:05 pm
Yes, but it passed over after a short period of time. I was sad yes, but it isn’t worth it to end your life.
July 5th, 2010 at 7:05 pm
Whatever it is you’re going through, you’re not the only person who has felt this way. Think of it this way. There are people out there that were together for YEARS…DECADES…and ended that relationship. These people had to start their lives over. It’s difficult, I know. To say "it hurts" doesn’t even cover it. Only time will heal what you feel. But, believe me when I say nobody is worth even having suicidal thoughts over. Life is too precious even though it doesn’t seem that way now.
In the meanwhile, no matter what you do, please don’t sit at home alone, locked in your room, listening to songs about lost love, brooding and mourning over her. Try to keep yourself busy. Go out. Meet People. Hang out with your friends. Take up a new hobby. Only time will heal what you feel right now.
July 5th, 2010 at 7:05 pm
I though of doing it but in the end i realised it would be the biggest mistake of my life.Thinking of those who love me made me change my mind.Trust me nobody in the world is worth doing that.She dumped you?Ok fine move on!You feel so down because it just happened.Chill out and soon you will find somebody who’s better than your ex for sure,just give it time dear.
Best of luck!
July 5th, 2010 at 7:05 pm
Got back to God. He is perfect love…
Love is patient, love is kind, Love does not insist on its own way. Love bears all things, believes all things, Hopes all things, endures all things. Love never fails.
July 5th, 2010 at 7:05 pm
I didn’t try it .. but felt when one person whom I loved ,didn’t love me.
July 5th, 2010 at 7:05 pm
WTF stop feeling sorry for yourself and get on with life ….. there is plenty more fish in the sea …get off the PC / LAPTOP and go have fun ..there are KIDS out there with cancer and the whine less than you =/
July 5th, 2010 at 7:05 pm
No, not me.
But if you are to do it – try not to make a mess.
July 5th, 2010 at 7:05 pm
i did.my boyfriend of two years cheated on me,and i felt like a failure and i promised myself not to love someone again, but i met someone and tried so hard to please him so it wouldn’t end and look like i failed again.so when this man decided one day that he didn’t want the relationship, i felt like that was it.i just wanted to die because my heart and pride was just in shatters.but when i look back now,those experiences just made me stronger and confident.now am not afraid of what may come but i enjoy when i can and iam very happy.trust me, i know how it feels, but you will get over it.
July 5th, 2010 at 7:05 pm
Losing a loved one can almost be like death in terms of how you process it. You have to go through a process of bereavement, including all those steps that include Shock, Disbelief, Denial, Shame, Fear, Anger, Blame, Grief and Mourning, and finally Acceptance. You may go back and forth between some of these, but just understand it is a process you are going through and the point is to keep moving ahead. No one is worth taking your life over. And the world will definitely not be a better place if you were not here. You have so many more lives you can touch in a positive way. You are valued and you are loved. God gave you this gift of life and He/She wants you to use it to it’s fullest, even though it can sometimes be painful.
Try to develop some new patterns in your life because it is the old ones you have gotten used to that will remind you of how things were and may keep you feeling sad. You can start by varying your normal routines…what you do when you wake up…the route you go to school or to work…what you do when you get home, etc.
Go out and get yourself some new clothes. There is nothing faster at making you feel like a new person than to adopt a new look…something that will make you look good, or hot, or attractive. Praise yourself when you look in the mirror.
Also, develop some new acquaintances or friends. GET INTO what they are into. If you stay so stuck in yourself and your world, you will not be able to heal through PERSPECTIVE of the rest of the world around you. And you will soon come to realize that life is definitely worth living and that each day is an opportunity.
Some will tell you to eat chocolate because that releases a chemical in your body that may feel like being in love. That’s O.K. but just don’t get into food as a compensating strategy. You don’t want to put on weight right now. In fact, more exercise will be one more key to getting you to feel stronger and healthier.
And do get lots of good sleep. Your brain and your emotions are being overloaded right now so it is important to pace yourself so your mind can rejuvenate during this journey you are taking. And if you have not had your one big cry yet, go ahead and do it. Allow yourself to feel your sorrow fully because once you hit bottom, you can only go up from there. And you will probably come to feel like you don’t want to stay at the bottom any more.
You are definitely not the only one who has ever been dumped in a relationship. But please don’t go jumping into another one right now because you will be on the rebound and not fully yourself. You have to learn how to be YOU again, independent of the other person, and that might take a few months. So be good to yourself and to others, and you will find this journey will move more quickly as you move to the next level.
July 5th, 2010 at 7:05 pm
i just lost 2 1/2 years last night man you don’t feel good but with time it passes she stole my heart and all the money i put into her. I’m headed to the strip club tonight with my friends just to get my mind off her.